Masking is when we hide parts of ourselves in order to fit in, avoid judgment, or feel safer in social situations. For many neurodivergent people, masking begins early. It can develop in response to environments that feel unsafe, at home, at school, or in society.
When our authentic reactions are misunderstood, criticized, or punished, our nervous system learns: “It’s safer to adapt.”
Masking is often a survival strategy. It is something the brain does to reduce risk, increase belonging, and prevent harm. Over time, though, masking can feel exhausting. It can create confusion about: Who am I really? What do I actually feel?
Exploring masking is not about removing protection. It is about understanding it and slowly building safer spaces where protection is not always needed.
At school? Work? With strangers? With family?
Stimming? Opinions? Emotions? Interests?
Tiring? Safe? Confusing? Protective?
With trusted people? Online? Alone?